I met the nicest lady today. She bought my washer and dryer actually.
Talk about someone who is handling plan b, this sweet woman is handling it wonderfully. She had a knee surgery a couple of years ago and hasn’t been able to walk since. She is getting a full knee replacement next month.
She has been through two nasty divorces. She was accompanied by a man who is her friend. They have been friends for 12 years. His wife died shortly before that. They travel together, camp together, play cards together, and look out for each other. She said that people don’t believe them when they say it is totally platonic. I watched her smile at him and him gently take her arm. Watching them together I would say that there is a lot of love between them.
She said that when she needs things fixed, or someone to help her pick up a washer and dryer, he is there for her.
In the mean time she still has her space and he has his.
Have you ever seen that movie “Mean Girls”? You know the one where there is this popular clique at school, who loved torturing anyone who didn’t fit into their group.
Well, I have come to realize that it goes on way past high school. Not that we deliberately set out to ridicule or hurt each other. It’s that as people, especially as women, we judge each other based on our versions of perfection.
We tend to “should” on each other a lot.
Working moms think that stay at home moms should do more to help their family’s finances.
Stay at home moms think that working moms should be with their families instead of promoting their own careers.
Okay, I am going to admit to you, right off the bat, that I am not a great conversationalist. It is an area in which I really struggle.
In my former life I was a juvenile probation officer. I dealt with people each day. There were objectives to be met, direct reasons to be talking to someone. I actually have great interviewing skills. I have been trained in conflict resolution, de-escalating anger etc.
However, it doesn’t always translate over into talking to people on a personal level. It seems sad to say that I would have to read a book on how to have a conversation.
Some people come by the gift of words quite naturally. Some of my four children are great conversationalists! They have that ability to tell a story in such a way that you are completely wrapped up in what they are saying! Their thoughts just flow. It didn’t come from me that is for sure!