Introvert vs Extrovert

Out of my shell

I’ve read a lot of thoughts about this lately.  Are you an introvert or are you an extrovert?

I am an introvert. See one of the things about introverts is that they know they are introverts.  Extroverts tend to want to belong to everything so they typically say they fit into both categories.  An introvert just knows.

I once went to this party… actually the truth is a TRIED to go to this party where I only knew a couple people.  It nearly killed me to think of getting out the car and walking into a stranger’s home.  I drove around the block three times, parked for 10 minutes before I finally gave up and went home.  I was so mad at myself for not having the nerve to go inside.

Party atmospheres drain me.  I prefer a small group of friends.  The kicker here is how do I make friends?  Get an extrovert friend who takes you along.

I had the best group of friends in Idaho.  We played cards almost every week.  Even they said that they thought they would never get me out of my shell.

One day we were playing a game of Cranium, I think.  I had to get my partner to understand my clue by humming “Wild Thing”.  It is harder than it sounds by the way.  I bust up laughing!  The harder I tried to get it across, the harder I laughed!  It was so darn funny!  So the song “Wild Thing” became a running joke between us all.

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Mean girls

Have you ever seen that movie “Mean Girls”?  You know the one where there is this popular clique at school, who loved torturing anyone who didn’t fit into their group.

Well, I have come to realize that it goes on way past high school.  Not that we deliberately set out to ridicule or hurt each other.  It’s that as people, especially as women, we judge each other based on our versions of perfection.

We tend to “should” on each other a lot.

Working moms think that stay at home moms should do more to help their family’s finances.

Stay at home moms think that working moms should be with their families instead of promoting their own careers.

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The Importance of Family

One of the most basic of needs is a a feeling of roots.  It has been said that we need to know where we come from to know where we are going.

Whenever a new child is born, comments about who the child looks like are a certainty.  Whether we have a nose like Grandpa or the eyes of Uncle Joe and a chin like Grandma we know where we come from.

Caroline Myss calls it a feeling of “tribe”. It is the root system that grounds us.

Now I realize that not all children grow up in their biological family, but they can still have that sense of where they come from.  A sense of security from those who love them.

I think that one of the most devastating forces is the destruction of family.

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How we get through

I was thinking about how we get through the rough days.  What do we cling to that keeps us going?

Yesterday I had a seizure and felt like crap.  My sweet husband came home and jumped right in to help make dinner.  He is so good to me!

Today I’m still not up to my usual self.  I came across something that was sent to me years ago, by an online friend.  I’ve seen a few variations of the words.  It was later put to music and used in hymnals.  These words got me through so much.  I think it is just beautiful!  So I thought I’d share it with you today.


Not Knowing  – by Mary G. Brainard  –  written in the 1800s


I know not what shall befall me,

God hangs a mist o’re my eyes,

And at each step of my onward path

He makes new scenes to rise,

And every joy He sends me comes

As a sweet and glad surprise.

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Unexpected Windfalls

035I think that when I write the word “windfall” we all probably think of money.  It is after all something that we all need.  However, there are other languages that we speak.  I speak paint.  😀

Years ago (15 or more) I had a huge collection of acrylic paints… hundreds.  However, I was in the early years of being a single mom. I worked 60 hours a week and tried to keep up with four wonderful children.  Painting took a back seat and eventually no seat at all.  So I had the paint but no time.  Eventually the paints dried up and I threw them all away.

Now I have time but I had minimal acrylic paints.

I found an ad on Craigslist for paints.  A lady was getting ready to move and so she was getting rid of all of her paints.

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Life is a Mirror

mirrorToday I heard someone say that life is a mirror.  If we are a positive person we attract positive people.  If we are judgmental we associate with judgmental people.  If we are a cheat or a thief, we make a place in our lives for people who are cheats and thieves to enter our lives.

Not too long ago a book called The Secret became a best seller on the topic of the Law of Attraction.  Really the idea has been around for eternities, because there are some laws of the universe that just are.  You can’t violate the law of attraction because it goes on our lives whether we acknowledge it or not.

Have you ever known someone to change their whole surroundings to get away from certain friends, just to find that exact type of friends in their new place?

The story goes that there was a young man who was considering moving into a new town.  He asked a local man, who was sitting out on his porch, what the people were like in the town.  The local asked him, “What were the people like where you came from?”

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